Yesterday when I was going through the newspaper, I notice an advertisement that was about the adoption of a child.  was an appeal from an organization to those parents who are looking for an adoption, that child of 9, lost his parents due to pandemics and trying to feel the empathy and graciousness of others. He was not the only one who was waiting for help. 


Many children are still there who need help because Ovid 19 had swallowed up all the possession of their existence. I started thinking about that child who had lost the shell of care and protection of his bio parents and now glancing for a shade only that can make him feel better.  You people must be thinking why was I showing interest I feel it should be shared because it is in my memory lane. My mother told me this incident one of her friends was adopted. 

My mother told me that earlier she was not aware of this fact because she was very vivacious and full of life everything was good. Her parents took care of her but after some time my mother noticed certain changes in her behaviour she was neither taking interest in studies nor in any co-curricular activities, my mother wanted to know the reason for her drastic change. 

One day in front of my mother she burst into tears and had opened her heart whatever had been told it was nice at, she told that her legal parents after getting their bio daughter were no more interested in her and as the more aught growing up she was getting much pressure not only from parents but also same from the daughter she further told she was no more a slave her studies were going to be affected it could not be continued any more, because she had to perform all the house chores. 

My mother told that her heart-rendering statement was enough to make anybody perplexed so my mother wanted to help her out but it didn’t work. She stopped coming to school and my mother hadn’t got the chance to meet her again. 

But when I saw the advertisement it got recollected and made me think of that boy. I don’t wish to blame all those parents who adopt the child that all the legal parents are like them no way,  but at the same time, it can not be denied too,  that it can transpire. 

Everyone has got his way of motivation in exploring the truths regarding, parenthood and adoption. If you find yourself in the situation or planning to adopt a child, you should ask several questions to yourself rather than to others, before providing a shelter of love to those, who are looking for your support.  When you have the assertive response and gets filled with positivity. It means, it is the right time to make moves. 

Certain measures that have to be taken-befoe adoption-- 

( 1) make yourself sure that you have a solid reason for adoption

(2) always have the right intentions and clarity of thoughts during the whole procedures of adoption 

(3) if the personal yearnings are not be controlled it may create problems for both perspectives.

(4) always keep trying to maintain a balance between your desires and the expectations of the adopted child.

(5) the priority ought to be given to the interest of the child rather than  own interests 

(6) In the process of adoption ‘Acceptance' is the part that should be dealt with very carefully. if it doesn’t it will come out as the 'split personality' of a child.

(7 ) make the child understand the importance of family values and traditions and let him/her learn it gradually without putting any kind of pressure.  

(8) Keep yourself mentally prepared if you wish to make memories of a well-knit happy family you have to respect, endorse and exchange views regarding their experiences rather than focusing on the complete change of their backgrounds.

(9) adoptive parents or families should have the mindset that they are firmed to provide a new beginning to those who have gone through many ups and downs.  If you are motivated enough to provide help in healing the past grief, dejection, rejection and the loneliness of the adoptive children this effort of yours will be counted in the happy moments.

Suggestions for the application form --- particular points should be in the adoption form.

*After the main questions, it should be asked how the proper physical and mental freedom or space will be provided to the child in the house.

*if the adoptive family have got a clear vision, that it is not only about to bear all the expenses but also to spend quality time to make a strong emotional bond with the child.

* it ought to be asked if any person doesn’t agree to the adoption what kind of steps will be taken to create solidarity amongst the members of the family.

*The procedure of adoption is very challenging, expensive and time-consuming, how these things should be managed?

*when you are ready for the whole process of adoption the level of your motivation should be checked to know how desperate you are to accept the challenge. 

*question should be asked regarding emotional setback if any sort of agony is there then make sure it has already been healed because adoptive children should not be used to rejuvenate the broken heart.

*Sometimes it has been noticed that the adoptive children have got certain issues than what kind of strategies will be enforced to solve the matter.

When you are fully prepared and confident as well,  not only to take the challenges of adoption but also ready to take this wonderful commitment to bring the bundle of joy 😊  to lead an amazing life.