"Intense, unexpected suffering passes more quickly than bearable suffering; the latter goes on for years and, without our noticing, eats away at our souls, until, one day, we are no longer able to free ourselves from the bitterness and it stays with us for the rest of our lives. " Paulo Coelho,

If the mistakes of others occupy your mind completely, then your mind becomes a place of indiscretions and the surroundings will get more pathetic, instead of things coming in to be better, it will get bitter. 

This bitterness can develop a feeling of emptiness later on this hollowness provides space or make proper room for fear, depression, hatred, and grudges against the people and the system. They gradually, become habitual to negativity, and in their ignorance, they stop preventing those changes that will not just harm their thought process but can also expand the negativity around them. 

They never apprehend that they are holding themselves guilty for other people’s missteps. If they unknowingly get enter anyone’s shoes and the moment it is recognized the fact or their mistake that things should not occur like this then try to shun those ideas which are prevailing negativity within you and provide the same vibes to the people around you. 

If you are feeling bad about anything or anyone the same will be returned to you in the worse form. It is the bitter truth that most people knowingly or unknowingly fail to accept then they keep paying its price for the expanse of friendliness for the rest of their lives. 

You people must be thinking that why I have chosen bitterness as a topic to write on. I would like to tell you that I have logic and the reason both to express my views last Sunday I went to see my aunt. Her behavior soon made me feel that something was wrong somewhere. 

I noticed Whenever she was asked for anything whether by her uncle or the maid her response was very harsh. Her blunt answers compelled me to know the reasons for her severity because I had never seen her before like this she was a very dignified lady. Uncle was also very puzzled even though he was not aware of the reason for her harshness. 

Then we decided to make her comfortable because it is the fact a person who has got any problem should have given not only a proper space but his/her comfort zone also. We did the same and it worked, after some time she came out of her shell and discussed the matter. 

She told that yesterday her friend came and started blaming her for the conflict and scuffle that was going on in the family due to her daughter-in-law, and that girl was suggested by my aunt to her in one of the acquaintances, that's why she was holding my auntie responsible for all the mishappenings and as the main culprit. 

"Bitterness is how we punish ourselves for other people’s sins." Matshona Dhliwayo

These allegations had broken her totally and led her to anger guilt and remorse. That incident was enough to make her soul sick. The bitterness created inside is quite visible in her outward gestures. 

I asked my aunt if she compelled her friend to choose only that girl, but she refused. I advised her to need not to feel guilty about anything. Because It was not about her, it was about them who were unable to sort out the problems within the family 👪  and trying to blame others in mere disappointment. 

Now I would like to tell everyone that in case a person gets entangled in such a situation don't let himself /herself, affect so much and never allow anybody else to control his/her mind based on others' thought processes. If it happens it means that he has to work on his strengths to deal with the weaknesses. 

When you start working on the process of overcomings, it will be shortly realized that the enemy you are looking for outside, lies within you, and then the process which seemed easy earlier abruptly gets difficult. Now you people must be thinking about why I am calling this 'gets difficult'.  

Because neither we have the habit nor the faith in the policy of forgetting and forgiving. That's why the misconception lies within us regarding anything, that may not be uprooted so easily. The seeds of immorality should be uprooted in the beginning, otherwise, the roots shall get stronger within you.

 Be sure, It will become visible in the form of various weaknesses in the later stages of life. Bitterness is one of the most devastating cognitive troubles in a person's life.

"Never let bitterness make a home in your heart; raise the rent and kick it out,"

Matshona Dhliwayo