"Yesterday I went to see my friend because she was not feeling well. Whenever I made the call, she either sounded very harsh or pitiful. The way she was behaving was not normal. I was not able to understand this shocking behavior because earlier she was not like that. But with this sudden change, it was becoming clear that something was wrong. So when I came to know from one of our common friends that she was out of sorts, I decided to meet her. 

After some normal talks, I directly asked why she was feeling so sad and what was the exact idea that pushed her toward the negative zone. I wanted to know the exact reason for this drastic change. The silence prevailed, and after a long silence, she came out from the shell with a question: 'How will you feel if you are supposed to go through body shaming?'" 

I asked what kind of stupid body shaming she was talking about! I encouraged her to explain everything. She said that her acquaintances used to call her "sukhattee." In English, it means a person who is very lean and slim. I asked, "Does it make a difference to her?" She bluntly answered it could make a difference to anyone when even kindred start comparing you with that pauper who gets lean due to lack of food. Then the reason for this drastic change became clear. It made me feel that she was trying to create a mountain of chaos. 

I asked, "What is good:to go with body positive or remain engaged with negative?" Things cannot be ignored; many people get comments on their fat bodies, addressed as "motu," and the shorter ones are called "chottu." Those who are neither fat nor so thin or short but if they are 6 feet tall, they are usually called "lambu" in Hindi. So, we should understand that people around us become habitual in providing names according to our appearances.

Many questions can be raised regarding this particular set of behaviors of others, but the answer always remains very simple to perceive. When we start taking their remarks seriously, they begin to get firm on their comments. One who takes these kinds of remarks seriously ignores how he is paving the way for these people to get more firm in their opinions. I would like to say that the more attention is paid to these kinds of comments, the more people get judgmental.

I think that it depends more on how you feel about yourself rather than the views of people around you. If you are sure of yourself the importance of the opinion of others regarding your appearance becomes less. Those who feel good about their body never pay heed to meaningless ideas. It has been noticed that a woman easily gets under enormous pressure to live up to unrealistic beauty criteria. 

This pressure can be reduced by rejecting all those messages that are entirely based on the shape and size of the body. You have to understand how things work and a person values himself. It is entirely based on figuring out those ways that help to provide more confirmation, about who you are rather than how you look.

 If you don't have any problem accepting the way you look fat or slim, short or tall. The perception of others should never be given importance until you don't feel bad about that specific idea, then it mustn't make any difference, how much they are compelling you to think over it. 

As we do agree, sometimes being neutral not only creates peace but also helps in proving how wisely and logically a person can work or think in adverse circumstances. It is observed, and I believe as well, that a very beautiful or handsome person, if not feeling good or sure about him/herself from inside, fails to form a perfect impression.

 On the other side, an average-looking lady/man feels so good that their enthusiasm and power of jubilation become enough to create an impression that can work like magic. So, the significance lies in how sound a person feels, rather than how good one looks.

If individuals wish to run those prominent features of life, which not only remain for long but also lead them to success, they are supposed to avoid putting effort into worthless and baseless suggestions or ideas. These suggestions cannot help at all, but only block the path to wisdom and can shift their focus to insignificant aspects. 

The various quests of life make us realize that our wisdom plays a great role in embracing ourselves in a way that feels good. It is believed that it is not in our hands to stop those people who try to diminish or reject our inner strength through their comments. However, one thing that is absolutely in our hands is to not be affected by their views and always focus on our worth.

If people keep indulging in body shaming let them, but how long it will continue, it must be decided by the way you take it. If you feel comfortable in your occupied space, stop paying heed to those who are just creating useless challenges. Always try to bear in mind that our well-wishers never make those remarks that may hurt us. If they feel anything odd they never raise an issue in a censoring tone. Their humble approach can easily be identified. It remains different from those who try to tease out of fun or jealousy. 

It is observed these kinds of people try to hide their bigger defects by focusing on your small issues, so why do these types of rough or harsh people give undue importance, no need to waste your energy on them, they deserve nothing just a big ignore. It's human nature to get tempatize for things they don't have but as the days pass, experience as a best teacher makes them understand that whatever they have try to make the best use of it to leave a beautiful impact on others.