Have you ever noticed the awful attention seekers? I feel often we all would have come across these kinds who become successful in gaining attention and remain relaxed till they get sure that this attention will go on for long. It is not a big deal if a person wishes for something nice to happen but the problem begins when he gets obsessed with his wish to draw others' attention toward him. 




I am pointing out this issue because yesterday I went to meet my aunt during that journey. Suddenly a boy of 15 got up from his seat, moved towards the exit door of the moving bus, threw half of his body outside and startedtaking selfies. The bus conductor noticed an 'emergency,'and he immediately got up, dragged him in, and the boywas scolded very badly by all of us.

When he was asked why he was throwing life in danger by taking pictures from the speedy bus? His answer was weirder than his action when he was asked why he was putting his life in danger by taking pictures from the speedy bus. He said that nobody was paying attention or feeling his presence, and this indifferent attitude was too much for him to handle. 

He was so desperate to be felt; the whole commotion drew the attention of passengers towards him. Even though he sounded confident, the action was contemptuous, so nobody was ready to provide the attention he was looking for. I am still unable to believe that this kind of attention seeker exists among us.

"Attention seekers even

 do not shy away 

from creating sensation

 by endangering" lives."

 The action was full of foolery, so I suggested to the other passengers that he should not be given much importance, which could help him in any way. We all know how our social media platforms work, especially for those youngsters who want to trend themselves.It is observed that they never hesitate for a single moment to check themselves while throwing their lives into such perilous activities. 

Try to understand what would happen, God forbid, if by chance he had fallen from the bus; if he hadn't lost his life, but his limbs got affected, or who knows, might have suffered from brain haemorrhage, then it would have been more painful not only for him but also for his near and dear ones. We have to understand that people look at others for validation.

 It is not unusual to long for others' validation, but if one gets addicted to this, it can create a big problem. Often, the kind of process people like to embrace points to their intentions. It is evident from your behaviour that somewhere you don't have enough confidence to accept yourself the way you are and the things you wish to do.

We should understand that whatever decisions are made, it doesn't matter whether these decisions work for us or not, but we should know how to take responsibility for our decisions. If we don't gracefully accept that mistake, which has become visible in our decisions, then we won't learn from them. Understanding that to err is human, nobody is exceptional; anyone can make mistakes. 

Any wrong decision that doesn't leave a question mark on our ability is just a way of thinking. If we don't work on those decisions and continue, issues will arise and can be disastrous. All these things should be handled carefully as they will help in bouncing back to pursue our objectives. If you fail to realise the importance of your confidence, believe me, you'll always find yourself busy seeking useless attention from others. 

It is well said that those who always seek validation from the people around them usually become easy victims of compromising their beliefs or ideas.and this process may put their authenticity at stake.We are well aware of this common fact that it is human nature to be admired, respected, or become popular among the masses. It gives pleasure, success, and helps to lead a better life. 

However, chaos arises when some people not only get tempted by unauthentic and unacceptable ideas but also start hoping to materialize those things accordingly. One who gets addicted to unrealistic or unconvincing ideas should keep in mind that endless struggle awaits, making it very difficult to approve all those baseless ideas, leaving only the option to seek attention to make things happen.

Those who wish to stay free are supposed to work hard on their ideas of seeking validation from the people around them. If the validation they receive brings about some positive changes even if temporarily, it fosters friendly feelings. However, when a person becomes absolutely dependent on this kind of validation, it emerges as the biggest enemy to contend with. 

The way this validation turns into an enemy is solely determined by our way of thinking. We humans never accept our flaws as gracefully as we accept our praise. In this scenario, when seeking validation from friends, they may offer comforting words, avoiding speaking the truth out of fear of causing hurt or pushing you in the right direction, eventually losing you by not making the necessary statements.

Sometimes in the later stages of life, when you begin to suffer due to those wrong assumptions, these friends seem to be the biggest enemies. It is the repetition of the same mistake because you are not analysing your instincts. The truth lies within, and you are trying to find it outside. When you fail to realise this fact, your thought process is solely responsible for the wrong decisions or validation.

People who always inspire themselves and start believing in their true strength never take interest in seeking useless attention from others for money, fame, or happiness. They don't even like the idea of enjoying life at the expense of others. We are supposed to understand that we have the treasure of goodness within us, so why do we try to find it outside? Stop focusing on the approval of others; just accept the truth that you are self-sufficient. The worst aspect of seeking this attention is that external validation makes you realize your true worth. How is it  possible ????